Wednesday, March 11, 2015

A Special Delivery


“And we know that for those who love God
all things work together for good, for those who are called
according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew
he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son”
―Romans 8:28–29, NIV

“God only gives special needs children to special parents.”

Most families with special needs children have been on the receiving end of these words as well-meaning friends grapple for something, anything, encouraging to say in the face of circumstances perceived as tragic. Parents who are trying to make sense of their heartache want to believe this platitude, and in desperation they buy in to its fallacy.

The heartbreaking reality is that scores of special needs children are born to parents who neglect and abuse them or are mentally or physically incapable of caring for them. Furthermore, parents of special needs children soon realize they simply aren’t “special enough” to overcome the challenges that lay ahead. No one, no one, is equipped to handle the pressures of rearing a special needs child (or any child) in and of themselves.

If God gives special needs children to parents who aren’t equipped to handle them, what must He be thinking? What does He hope to accomplish through something that seems so callous and unjust?

In my despair, I wrestled with the reality of our daughter’s condition. Doesn’t Scripture say, “If a child asks his father for a loaf of bread, will he be given a stone instead? If he asks for fish, will he be given a poisonous snake? Of course not! And if you hard-hearted, sinful men know how to give good gifts to your children, won’t your Father in heaven even more certainly give good gifts to those who ask him for them?” (Matthew 7:9–11, NLT).

Though I cringe to recall it, from deep within my desperation and fear, I hurled a defiant fist of hopeless accusation and resentment at God: It would’ve been better for our child to have died than for her to live with the challenges she’ll face. What sort of God allows the affliction of one so innocent?
In time, my answer came. The words of today’s text became my lifeline. Romans 8:28–29 reveals the ability of a Sovereign God to take a perceived tragedy and transform it into a beautiful gift―a gift that changes the lives of those who love Him. God was tenderly molding us into the image of His Son. Within this tiny parcel wrapped in pink came a contagious love, tied with our growing awareness of God’s unshakable presence and His overwhelming desire for us to know Him and experience His ways.

No. Special needs children aren’t given to special parents, and they’re not given to exalt their parents in the eyes of others. God blesses us with their presence so that we will exalt the Giver of all good and perfect gifts. The tragedy comes when we miss His point―the birth of a special needs child is a very “special delivery” indeed!

Now it's your turn to "get down." Have you previously experienced a "tragic" life event that you now see as a "gift?"

I always welcome your comments.

Keep your sunny side up!
Starr

Day 5 of a five-day series which first appeared at www.zookeepersministries.com

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